"It's my job to work on my inability to see your value and worth, not your job to prove it to me."
A young man walks into the store at 8am with tattered clothing and untamed hair. A customer at the counter turns to see who has walked in and displays a look of disapproval or disgust, then pays for the items and walks out after thanking the clerk. As the customer walks out, the they lock eyes and the man is seen trying to run his fingers through his hair and fix his clothing.
The young man is trying to prove his worth, when the action lies within the customer to deal with the internal issues that do not allow them to see that the young man is worth more than a displeasing glare.
This is what we see everyday in our society. the expectation that it is the other person's responsibility to fix our inability to see them in as humans. Furthermore, we then have been conditioned to try to meet these expectations as a means to earn worth, respect, opportunities, support, etc. We cannot fix problems in others that we did not create, we can only continue enabling or stand firm in our own identity in hopes of bringing awareness to it, to evoke change.
If you are caught in the vicious cycle of trying to find a solution to a problem that someone else has with you, then maybe it deserves a deeper assessment to truly determine whose habits or beliefs created it and whose hands the responsibility lies within to fix it.
My name is Frankie Reed-Shaw. I am a wife and mother of three. I love all things creative, especially writing thought-provoking pieces. I embarked on my journey of blogging about growth, maturity, and SPIRITUAL concepts about two years ago. My passion is expressing challenging ideas in hopes that myself, and others, engage in consistently thinking outside the box and strive to live a most authentic life, free of constraints. Don't be shy, feel free to comment your life experiences and wisdom on any post.