Self-esteem is an intricate part of being successful in life. I'm talking about true success derived from our own personal measure of success as a person. Sure, we can make six figure salaries, have lots of associates, and even meet some of our personal goals yet never feel like we are worthy or feel proud of the person we have become. Eventually this lack of self-esteem leads to the demise and death of our souls and overall well-being.
For me, success is me growing in my spiritual life, overcoming the hurdles with peace and tact, being the person that encourages growth in my husband and children, and to always strive to better myself physically, emotionally, and mentally. This has nothing to do with personal goals I have for my life: finishing my Master's degree, opening my own counseling business, improving my writing and creating a journal, becoming healthier and more fit, and so forth. My self-esteem is more attached to who I want to see and know in the mirror as opposed to who others see and physical accomplishments. When I learned to separate the two my true self-esteem grew.
There is a misconception that presentation has a direct relationship with self-esteem and that can be false. People who take the extra time to doll themselves up, look or speak confidently, or have titles or big bank accounts do not always have healthy self-esteems and people who choose to not take extra time adding make up and pretty clothing, do not hold fancy titles, degrees, and so forth are not necessarily on the lower end of the self-esteem scale. While there are many tools that help to assess self-esteem and even depression, only being honest with yourself can give you the definite answer to where you stand as far as having a healthy self-esteem or not. Psychology today has a valid online assessments available: online self-esteem quiz from Psychology Today (Click to take). For our purpose, here are some more in depth areas to help us figure out if our self-esteem needs repair.
These are just a few questions in broad areas that can help us determine if our self-esteem needs improvement and what areas we need to attack. Ultimately, improved self-esteem will come from within, nothing external. Begin with the positive affirmation sheet that you can download below. Place a picture of yourself (or write your name) in the middle and write positive affirmations to tell yourself daily or nightly before bed in the thought bubbles. Each month try to develop new affirmations that coincide with personal growth goals and/or areas where you exhibit the most negative self-talk! For instance, If you would like to improve the way you treat others you can begin by making positive affirmations to yourself and include that you are also respectful and kind to others.
I hope you step into a higher level of self-esteem utilizing my free POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS worksheet below and taking the online self-esteem test linked below.
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My name is Frankie Reed-Shaw. I am a wife and mother of three. I love all things creative, especially writing thought-provoking pieces. I embarked on my journey of blogging about growth, maturity, and SPIRITUAL concepts about two years ago. My passion is expressing challenging ideas in hopes that myself, and others, engage in consistently thinking outside the box and strive to live a most authentic life, free of constraints. Don't be shy, feel free to comment your life experiences and wisdom on any post.