"There is power in figuring out what we want out of life as opposed to allowing life to happen to us." ~Frankie~
When we know what we want we are less susceptible to doing things we don't want to do, working in careers that don't feed our passion, engaging in people and environments that don't push us to where we are going, and lastly relationships that are going nowhere without purpose. I encourage you today to begin the process of writing down what you want out of life and discovering pathways to get there. Disregard all distractions that do not feed your purpose.
I believe one of our biggest distractions hindering us from discovering and reaching our personal goals is the need to PUT-ON for others. That seems to have become the actual goal! With the rise in social media platforms and usage, so is the rise in a need to be relevant, opportunities to show "our world" who we want them to see, and also who we wish we were. If we put more time into working on ourselves and our own happiness then we might actually be who we portray to be on social media, in our work places, and in our community.
Another distraction is our need to please others and looking to others for fulfillment, worth, and approval to live our lives on our terms. So often I've heard people speak on not switching careers, or not moving, not returning to school, not being their true selves because of what someone else might think: a spouse, a family member, and yes even a boss! While I do have a family, I ultimately answer to God and am learning that I do not need to make decisions based on anyone else's expectations or fears. This doesn't mean we don't speak with our spouses regarding decisions, it means that we carefully wean out the decision making determinants that are based on fear, others expectations, and other's opinions.
Lastly, we fail to enjoy the life we have because we are busy dreaming of the life we wish we had, based on what we have seen in our society or because we want to run away from or meet stereotypes and expectations based on race, religion, color, socioeconomic status, and culture. We cannot enjoy our families and their differences, jobs, and others around us because we have some pre-conceived notion of how things are supposed to be, this picture of perfection.
I encourage all of us today to evaluate where we stand with "knowing what we want" and things that hinder us from getting there. Also, we should discover if what we want has been influenced so much by the world around us that it becomes "knowing what we want based on societal measures or ideals". If that is the case then I believe it is time to stop letting the world make us miserable by trying to live up to standards that do not lead to TRUE happiness and comfort in our own skin. Design your own life and live it!
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My name is Frankie Reed-Shaw. I am a wife and mother of three. I love all things creative, especially writing thought-provoking pieces. I embarked on my journey of blogging about growth, maturity, and SPIRITUAL concepts about two years ago. My passion is expressing challenging ideas in hopes that myself, and others, engage in consistently thinking outside the box and strive to live a most authentic life, free of constraints. Don't be shy, feel free to comment your life experiences and wisdom on any post.