While the language we speak to ourselves is definitely a major barrier to our growth and transformation, so are the relationships we maintain and frequent. It's often a hard pill to swallow that we may need to limit our exposure to things and people who anchor us to parts of ourselves that we no longer want to be because they do not align with our goals.
We've all done it, prepared the resume either physically (new job) or mentally (just before giving advice to a friend). We felt confident that we would give sound advice or perspective. However, when personal or business paths become stagnant or turbulent, are we open to new ideas or do we just recycle the same strategies and/or take the same approach to obtaining solutions? If the latter is true for you, then you may need to deduct the amount of years' experience you've placed on your resume, mentally and physically.
Sometimes we not only need new solutions, but innovative or progressive ways of obtaining that solution.
Being open to alternative ways of doing and believing requires actively turning off some of our automatic thoughts about how we've always done things and often that mentality that 'experience knows best'. It may even mean going back to dismantle childhood belief systems that we've picked up through experience or from our family traditions. The world has surpassed the point of 'accepting' creativity and nuance, it is expecting and embracing it as a means of catapulting us into a new future.
As parents, community members, and leaders how do we embrace change and innovative ways of being and doing? 2021 is the perfect time to quit the old practice of intellectual laziness and start evaluating, thinking, and forming our own beliefs and ways of being.
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We've all been there, that moment when we can only see the water rising from your feet to our knees and ultimately knowing that it will rise above our head. Or those frustrating moments when life seems to fight us at every turn. Many circumstances in life can bring about feelings and emotions that leave us 'stuck'. For example, the loss of finances, a loved one, or health concerns can render us hopeless, stressed, and unable to see when or how things will improve.
This brings me to the topic of surrounding ourselves with individuals who are hyperopic (better known as 'far-sighted'). What's up close can be blurry or unclear, but what is beyond is crystal clear. Far-sighted individuals don't even attempt to see things close up, but always extend it out to get a clearer view.
So what's all this got to do with me currently drowning in my fears and circumstances, you ask? When in a slightly irrational mental state, we often cannot even talk our way through situations we view through the lens of doom. It's in that moment that it's helpful to have individuals who only see the current situation as a spec, but can see further down the road to you overcoming the circumstance and sometimes coming out in a better position than we currently stand.
Evaluate the relationships or connections in your life and determine if you have individuals that can can help you see past the bumps in the road, however big or small they may be. These individuals have often hit similar bumps or have reached the destination you are trying to get to. That destination can be physical or mental.
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Just imagine if our kids were out of school even longer. Would you believe me if I told you we have dealt with these effects before?
"Your happiness does not hang in the balance; it lives in the space where you can accept yourself right where you are."
Energy, it is the most readily-available, valuable and overused currency. We all have it! If we are not careful, concepts, things, and ideas will take more than we are willing to give of it in a blink of an eye. Everything needs energy to live, even thoughts and feelings. When we take away the energy those thoughts fizzle out and can die. Hence, the reason many snatch it before you can even offer it up. The downfall to that is that we no longer have the mental capacity to focus energy on things we really want in life and allow room for it to manifest in our world because it's so crowded with everything else. We often see this when employers encourage employees to dedicate excessive time and energy to helping the establishment prosper or employees, athletes, etc, feel the invisible pressure to meet high standards.
Who doesn't love ice cream and cookies! Me and the girls decided to try our hand at a new summer treat, and I think we #NailedIt!
"The best communicators in the world are that because they are fluent in human."
"There are more years behind me than ahead of me..."
My name is Frankie Reed-Shaw. I am a wife and mother of three. I love all things creative, especially writing thought-provoking pieces. I embarked on my journey of blogging about growth, maturity, and SPIRITUAL concepts about two years ago. My passion is expressing challenging ideas in hopes that myself, and others, engage in consistently thinking outside the box and strive to live a most authentic life, free of constraints. Don't be shy, feel free to comment your life experiences and wisdom on any post.